How I plan to make 2019 work for me

Happy 2019. It’s a new year and a fresh start. The Christmas decorations are away for another year and #newyearnewme is everywhere at the moment. People across the globe commit to bettering themselves by making new years resolutions, promises to give up things such as junk food or alcohol etc.

And I’m no different, I have goals and aspirations for this year. Most of which come from lessons I’ve learned from the stresses of 2018.

Throughout December I didn’t publish a single blog post, and I’ve barley been posting on Instagram. And I hate that.

The reason for this, is that for the last 6 weeks of the year I was flat out, non stop busy. Now I’m naturally a busy bee but this was too much.
Christmas is my absolute favourite time of the year, I love decorating the house and tree, wrapping gifts, visiting Christmas markets, cosying up on the sofa with watching a festive film. But this year I barley did any of it, due to agreeing to too much, about 8 pre-Christmas family events, work dos, birthdays etc.

I had hoped to have the tree up and decorated by the first weekend of December, by the second weekend we had a half naked tree put together, it took 3 days to decorate the tree, finding 10 minutes spare between getting home from work and quickly changing, shoving some dinner in and running out for another event. I didn’t get chance to watch all my favourite Christmas films, I was still wrapping on Christmas eve, and most heartbreaking of all is that Steph & I hardly spent any time together, the stress of it all was making us take it out on each other, which just made things worse. In the whole of December we had 3 evenings (after work) with nothing planned. It was the first time I wasn’t looking forward to Christmas, and I just wanted it all to be over – it killed my Christmas spirit.

Both Steph and I have big families, we both have divorced parents and a lot of people to see. With Steph working over Christmas, we had to give up any kind of Christmas at our home to fit in seeing most of our family, by the time we reached our 5th and final destination on Christmas day, we both broke down and cried. We spent the day watching the clock and feeling anxious about the time, feeling bad for leaving and then being late for our next destination. It was too much, we were physically and mentally exhausted.

Yet despite the stress and tears, we did enjoy elements of Christmas. We love spending time with our family and loved ones, and we’re always spoiled with food and presents.

After turning down every New Years Eve invite, and agreeing to have a chilled out night with a couple of friends, some nibbles and games, I’ve gone into the new year giving myself a break.
So for 2019, I’m learning to say no. I don’t need to attend every family or friends event. I don’t need to squeeze too many visits into a short period of time, it’s actually nicer to spread it out and have more quality time with people, rather than rushed.

I’ve wanted to write, I’ve wanted to post of Instagram but the reality is, it’s not going to go anywhere and I’m not going to put pressure or stress on myself to post every day, blog every week to keep the ‘numbers or engagement’ up. I’m going to post because I want to, not because I feel I have to.

It’s 4 days into the new year and I already feel calmer and relaxed. New Years day was spent having a duvet day, watching films and eating whatever I wanted, it was bliss. I don’t remember the last time I just did nothing and it’s done me the world of good.

So here’s a quick run through of 5 realistic goals and my resolutions I want to achieve this year:

  • Say no, don’t commit to too much and remember it’s ok to relax.
  • Save, save, save for the wedding… but don’t stress about it and remember to still enjoy life. There’s plenty of cheap things to do.
  • Lose weight, exercise more, get fit. But as a lifestyle change, not just for 2019. I’d like to be able to run a 5K this year.
  • Read more. Stop using those books as decoration and actually read them, including the full Harry Potter series.
  • Keep motivated, focused and continue to slowly grow on those platforms that I enjoy – such as this blog, Instagram, YouTube and other personal projects.

I would love to find out what some of your goals or resolutions are for 2019, let me know in the comments.



1 Comment

  1. Justine Owen
    January 11, 2019 / 9:29 pm

    You truly are an inspiration. You save and work and slog and try between you to make so many people happy it is heart touching….. now it’s time to just say no…it.was so sad to see you both so upset on a day you both LOVE … I can visit and call any time, Xmas day is just a day….. enjoy reading and enjoy growing… love you lots

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